Sometimes it might seem like everyone around your workplace expects you to act like a coach by making sure you practice good team leader behaviors, but when it comes to them it’s a different story. This could be an issue for you if it’s your boss. She might talk a good game about working as a team, and then her actions are exactly the opposite. Since this is your supervisor, you may be hesitant to bring up the topic of making sure her actions match her words.
Here are three potential ways you might deal with this.
- You can find another boss.
- You can live with the situation as it is.
- You can “coach up” by providing him feedback when you have good opportunities to do so. You would want to prep for this by jotting down situations that demonstrate he is not a team player. You’ll also want to crystallize your thoughts on what feedback you might provide so your feedback is helpful and has the potential to change behavior.
If you selected #3, you win the prize for bravery in a team leadership role. Give yourself a hearty pat on the back.
You’ve bumped into the hardest part about working in a team-based environment — doing what you say. And remember, people will believe what you do more than what you say. If the words don’t match the action, the action always wins hands down.
You can be sure your team is paying attention. You most certainly cannot control the behaviors of your supervisor. But you can be the leader you would like to see in others. Too many times we wait for someone else to start when we can be a catalyst ourselves. And, often when others see what’s working for us, they follow suit.
Take the lead and others will follow. What do you think?