Managers: See Yourself as Others See You

Over at the Harvard Business Review blogs, Linda Hill and Kent Lineback have a terrific post on the importance of knowing how your words and actions are perceived by those who report to you.  As Linda and Kent rightfully point out, though, getting a truthful answer is easier said than done.  Here are some of their top recommendations for getting honest feedback about how others see you:

Establish ongoing human connections


Is there an easy give-and-take between you and your reports? Are you able to carry on a real conversation about a variety of topics, business and personal? Can you disagree and respectfully discuss your differences? Without such connections, which require time to establish, little else you do is likely to uncover others’ thoughts and feelings, especially about you as a boss.

React calmly and constructively to negative feedback

You needn’t accept everything you hear. But when you disagree, do you seek clarification, pose thoughtful questions, and ask for examples? Or do you respond angrily and deny defensively what you’re hearing? Only as people test your tolerance will you slowly build a reputation for a willingness to hear and accept candid comments.

Seek out perspectives in the context of a specific task

Asking broad, general questions can feel threatening to those you’re asking, particularly if they work for you. So, develop a practice of checking in with people at the beginning and end of a piece of work.  Use the specific piece of work as a setting for a candid discussion of what worked and what didn’t, where you might have done less or more, and what you should do differently next time.

Build an internal development network

Communicate regularly with a group of trusted advisers who are willing to provide their honest reactions to how you’re operating within the organization.  Members of your development network are most likely to be peers and colleagues and may include a more senior mentor.

Tap your boss

A good manager is willing to pass on what she hears about you from others.  She also has access to organizational information and commentary not available to you and so can offer a broader perspective on how you’re perceived.

As Linda and Kent point out, being able to accurately understand how you are perceived requires putting in time and effort to establish strong internal relationships, which, as a manager, helps you in many other ways as well.

Alexandra Levit

Alexandra Levit’s goal is to help people find meaningful jobs - quickly and simply - and to succeed beyond measure once they get there. Follow her @alevit.

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  • http://www.askamanager.org Alison Green – Ask a Manager

    Great suggestions. Even just caring to try to see to yourself as others do is something that a lot of managers don’t bother with, and it can go a long way!  In job interviews for management positions, I often ask candidates this question:  ”Assuming that even the greatest bosses have traits that annoy their employees, what do you think your employees’ biggest complaint is about you?”  It’s amazing to me how often candidates have never thought about the question before!

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    Anonymous Reply:

    Alison, I’m not surprised.  I think it’s scary for people to think about, so they avoid it.  But study after study has shown that the most successful individuals have the greatest self-awareness.  Thanks for commenting!

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  • http://twitter.com/hvoigts Heiko Voigts

    Again useful! Thank you. Before, I used to flee into the context of a specific task when feeling the general was being misunderstood

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    Anonymous Reply:

    Thanks!  I find that a simple misunderstanding has the potential to blow up and be much bigger if not addressed immediately.

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    Great points shared with us @levit.  Nature of not avoiding the negative responses and to be continuous in the interaction with honest person, these two will take yourself higher place.
    The thing of getting the reply from the honest colleagues and employee and to be regular in the interaction with them, is exactly suited for the manager also to build the strong team which will drive success to the firm.

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